Thursday, December 15, 2005

A Hard Day's Night



Jon and Paul moving railroad ties for their mom's Blessed Mary Rose Garden


When I came across this picture, it reminded me that when we carry our crosses in life, while we may not be cognizant of it, Jesus is always there to help us. We are never alone in our trials or joys. Jesus waits for us to acknowledge His presence in all things.
Is 41:13
I am the Lord, your God, who grasp your right hand; It is I who say to you, "fear not, I will help you." We are told that God's hand is in all things. That truth has been shown to us in so many ways. When I read all the comments that have been posted, it proves that God's hand is mightier than all. The testiments of faith and the words of encouragement and love show that it is God's hand guiding this whole occurence. I sit in wonder at how beautiful the love of God is and how much MORE awesome it really is. My human brain cannot conceive of the enormity of what His love truly is in its fullness. But I have seen your love and what it has done for our family. In the book of Ecclesiastes, 4: 9-10, "Two are better than one; they get a good wage for their labor. If one falls, the other will lift up his companion. Woe to the solitary man! For if he should fall, he has no one to lift him up." You have all been a part of lifting Paul and EACH OTHER back up, which makes us all better disciples of the Lord - in a world so desparately in need of God's laborers.

So on to the news of how your prayers have lifted Paul to new heights!

First, we were told that Paul would hopefully have control over his bladder nearer the time he would come home. While this is a very personal topic, I will end it quickly by saying Paul kept tapping me with his foot as I stood at the end of his bed. I thought he was just being fidgety and so I held his foot still, while gently saying "it's okay Paul." Then I noticed he was using his hand to motion to me. So I asked him what was wrong. He started to point to the bathroom door. I asked him "do you want to use the rest room?" He pointed his finger at the door again, so I got a nurse and we took him to the restroom. The fact that his brain was able to make the connections is huge. He had to solve the problem without being able to speak or walk on his own. We were told that Paul was struggling with this task of making all the connections in accomplishing a task. He may see a tooth brush, know what it is used for, be able to pick it up, but not be able to make his hand do the actual brushing. There can be 3-4 different parts of accomplishing tasks and this will be an area he will need help. But he definitely made all the right connections to solve the issue of bathroom use - and about 4 weeks ahead of schedule. Big Smile!

Then, we were waiting for his dinner and my cell phone rang. It was his brother James, so I told Paul who it was. He motioned to give the phone to him, so I did and he placed it at his ear. I leaned close to the phone and told Jim that Paul was listening, to go ahead and say hello. Paul tried to talk to Jim, and while he didn't say actual words, Jim was able to hear his voice. Again when Geneva called, Paul held the phone and tried to talk to her. When James and Geneva said goodbye, Paul handed the phone back to me! He sat very still while he was on the phone, and did not fidget with anything, like he had been doing all day. He was very intent, which was terrific in itself. He had been very restless and was almost constantly moving his hands and legs.

Later, I was trying to get a CD to play in his portable CD player (I sadly admit, I didn't know how to use it) and he motioned for me to give it to him. He immediately turned it on and sat quietly while listening. He took the earphones off and handed them to me. The CD was still playing, so I listened to what song it was, and it was the one he and I both really like. He had wanted me to hear it!

All of this happened in about an hour and 1/2. I left the hospital last night crying as I drove away. I was so joyous in the great blessings that have been bestowed on us and in wonderment that God has been so loving - beyond anything I thought could happen. I am trying to find the quiet time each day to listen more closely to what God's will is in my life, because this continues to be a huge wake up call to me. This has not been a gentle nudge - as I told the family - God has really rattled our cage. WE NEED TO LISTEN TO HIM.

Today, join our family in prayers of thanksgiving for all that has been seen and heard.
"Alleluia, alleluia. Raise your voice and tell the Good News/ Behold, the Lord God comes with power."
His power is for everyone, so we also keep your personal intentions in our hearts and prayers daily.
Love,
Jon and Rebecca Fidero

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

Rebecca,
Thank you for sharing your daily journey with Paul's miraculous recovery. I go through each step with you, each sadness at watching Paul struggle and each joy as he does what was once a simple thing. Its like they are your baby again, and you get the joy of the first step, the first word, but you also have the sorrow that this is your strong young man now, not your baby. I recognize everything you describe about Shepherd, about the stages of brain injuries, and I am there with you in spirit and in prayer.
As with everyone else, I want to help with more than prayer. Just say the word and I will have a Canine Assitants Lab or Golden in Paul's room to visit. These Service Dogs regularly go to Shepherd and do not need special "clearance".
Thank-you for sharing your deep faith with us, as all of us are growing deeper in our own because of it.
Kathy Evanina
evanina@bellsouth.net

Anonymous said...

keep up the good works paul.

Anonymous said...

My son, when you come to serve the LORD, prepare yourself for trials.
Be sincere of heart and steadfast, undisturbed in time of adversity.
Cling to him, forsake him not; thus will your future be great.
Accept whatever befalls you, in crushing misfortune be patient;
For in fire gold is tested, and worthy men in the crucible of humiliation.
Trust God and he will help you; make straight your ways and hope in him.
(Sirach Chapter 2)
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Paul, everyone continues to pray constantly for you and your family.

Anonymous said...

Dear Rebecca,
I have been praying for Paul and your family and will continue to pray for God's continued healing for Paul. I have been wanting to write to you and let you know how meaningful and encouraging your words have been to me.
You are truely a Proverbs 31 Woman. Proverbs 31 tells us that regardless of her natural talents or acquired skills, or all her accomplishments, her strength comes from God.
You are a Godly woman after God's own heart and a role model for many women today - including me!
Love in Christ,
Pam McGiboney

Anonymous said...

We're all here for you Paul

Anonymous said...

Paul,
I can honestly tell you that through your parents you are leading us on a spiritual journey that gives all the glory to God.
Your remarkable recovery can only be explained by an abandonment of what we want from God and a total acceptance of God's will.
Peace,
Paul

Anonymous said...

Wow, I had no idea what had happened to Paul until I somehow came across this. I knew him very little but knew him none the less. Its amazing to hear what he was diagnosed to be, and what he is becoming. God knew this wasn't the life he wanted for Paul, and slowly but surely will keep working in Pauls life. I pray for you, Paul, and your family in this time and can't wait to see how God works even more miracles in your life.

Anonymous said...

Dear Mrs. Fidero,
You really are a Proverbs 31 woman. How wonderful it is to see. It sometimes seems that this kind of woman has lost her place in our secular world. I'm sure your sons', and hubby will surely back me up and say you are the best. we will keep praying for all of you. Thanks for sharing things with all of us There are still sooooo many people out there who are in constant prayer, and are praising God for all the Fidero's. I can tell that even the Fidero's who live far away are wonderful people. Thank you for sharing. We love you all.

Anonymous said...

hey Stephanie and I were there when that picture was taken...that is pretty sweet!! :)

Anonymous said...

Paul,
You are a fighter. I don't know you but I do know that my daughter has been in the same place as you....fighting to hold onto life....fighting to make it and beating all the odds!!!!! God does make miracles happen and I am happy that you are one of those miracles! You do what you can and God will do the rest. Keep fighting and know that you are thought of and prayed for daily!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Paul,

Keep fighting ... I know how you always had to get everything your way before :-). And now .. now we need you to fight the hardest. I know that there are days when you think that you can't do it, but everyone believes in you and we know you can. We love you and miss you and can't wait for you to come home and read all these comments
:-D.

Sarah

Anonymous said...

yeah!

Anonymous said...

Dear Fidero family,
Word of Paul's accident reached me about a week after the fact, and it has been laying heavily on my heart ever since. I think about you all and pray for you every day. Though it has been a few years since I have spent any time with your family, I will NEVER forget the immense amount of love that you have for each other. I have no doubt that it is because of that love that Paul is doing so well as he is. Also, I have a suspicion that God has a lot more in store for his life. This is truly a testament to God's great love for all of us and the power of prayer. I am praying for you Paul! and for your whole family. God bless.

Anonymous said...

Paul, you and your family are in my daily thoughts and prayers. Not a day goes by without checking on your latest update. Keep up all the good work and may God continue to bless you and your family. I cant wait to see you Paul